Posts Tagged ‘Life’
Tonight I was pleasantly surprised when Dan, a formerly picky eater, ate a very healthy, yet delicious dinner. It was an easy meal to create, and it was both tasty and filling.
Here is the recipe:
This meal idea came to us by way of another Team Beachbody coach. We are benefiting a lot from the support of our Beachbody team. Through a Facebook group, we are in contact with friends and mutual friends, who are also striving for good health. Even though we live far away from many of these people, we can receive accountability and inspiration from them.
Dan and I spent this past weekend in Charleston for a Marriage retreat given by the chaplain services at Shaw AFB. We really enjoyed our time in Charleston, and we enjoyed the retreat. Our only regret is that we both forgot to bring our cameras!
The chaplain showed several comical video clips. This was one of my favorites:
One session covered “Family Rules”. These are rules or expectations that we adpoted from the households where we grew up. Each couple was asked to discuss the following categories: Family Traditions, Communication, Forgiveness, Sex, Fun/celebrations, Conflict/fights, Money, Love, Religion, and Separation. This exercise reminded me and Dan of our pre-marital counseling. One of the biggest challenges when getting married is to try and meld two different backgrounds, because each family and household does things differently.
Another exercise we did was choosing 3 traits from the list below, that we thought described our mate. Then we were discuss how we thought those were positive things, since all personality traits have a positive and negative side to them.
Loving, Sensitive, Brave, Intelligent, Generous, Loyal, Strong, Sexy, Creative, Fun, Supportive, Funny, Considerate, Organized, Resourceful, Cheerful, Elegant, Playful, Expressive, Reliable, Graceful, Active, Adventurous, Careful, Reserved, Practical, Dependable, Nurturing, Kind, Protective, Responsible, Self-Controlled, Faithful, Witty, Calm, Assertive.
Each couple was given a copy of Gary Chapmans The Five Love Languages. Dan and I found when we took the Love Languages Profile, that our answers had changed from when we took this profile test before we were married. Dan’s primary love language was physical touch, followed very closely behind by acts of service and quality time. Eliza’s primary language was quality time, with a tie in second place for physical touch and words of affirmation.
Another session suggested that every couple needs “5 magic hours” each week. This is based on a study by Dr. John Gottman. This time can include taking 2 minutes when parting for the day, 20 minutes for reunions at the end of each work day, 5 minutes every day of the week to admire or appreciate one another, 5 minutes each weekday for affection, and a weekly 2 hour date. All of that would total 5 hours.
We learned that we are to value our spouse as the most important person in our life.
A good way to communicate with our spouse is to complete this sentence: “When ____________, I feel _____________ because…….”
“What I want is _______________.”
If you fight to be right, your marriage will lose. If you raise your voice, wisdom ends. If an argument gets heated, take a break (and agree on when to talk again.) If you argue in public, you disrespect and devalue your spouse.
Overall, it was a great weekend! We met some nice couples, who also work at Shaw. We spent time learning and talking about our marriage. And, we had a wonderful date in Charleston on Saturday. We walked around the Battery (White Point Gardens), we ate gelato near River Front Park, we sampled Pralines, walked through the newly renovated Market, took a Carriage Tour of Charleston (awesome!), and we ate supper at Tommy Condon’s Irish restaurant. Sunday morning before heading back to Sumter, we also had brunch at Husk restaurant. That was quite a treat!
People who know me know how much I used to enjoy drinking coffee. I would have somewhere between seven and ten cups per day. Any time of the day is a good time for coffee, in my opinion. I would have multiple cups in the morning, another cup or two later in the morning at work, a cup after lunch, another cup later in the afternoon to prevent “the crash,” a cup after supper, and usually the best cup of the day was the one shortly before bedtime. It was the perfect beverage! I love the way it tastes. It goes great with certain foods (mainly breakfast foods or dessert). It would wake me up in the morning, keep me alert during the day, and believe it or not, it would also help me wind down before bed. It’s very easy to prepare, and there is always plenty at work as well. I loved coffee!
A few weeks ago, as I started re-assessing what I put into my body, it became somewhat obvious that my body was addicted to “the pot” (of coffee), or the caffeine in coffee. One of the surest signs of this was that if I didn’t have coffee in me by about 7:00 am, I would have a headache. I typically like to set my alarm, even on my days off. This is largely because waking up with a caffeine headache is not much fun. Also, if I went too many hours during the day without coffee, I got a headache. It was clear my body was dependent on coffee and when I started thinking about that, I didn’t like it.
So, I made a decision to start to wean myself off coffee; not completely, but to where I could have one cup in the morning and be fine the rest of the day. I knew that I couldn’t quit cold turkey. I’ve tried that in the past and it’s just too unpleasant for me to stick with. I began just by having one cup of coffee in the morning, as opposed to two or three. I also tried to just have one more cup in the afternoon. And then maybe, if I just couldn’t take it, one more cup in the evening. After I started, it turned out not to be so difficult! I also started drinking Shakeology, which I had been told, would help with my energy levels. I would start to feel caffeine headaches a little, and every once in a while I would cave and have an extra cup here or there, but I just stuck with it and as the days and weeks went on it became easier. I would even have a cup of decaf sometimes, which I had always thought was a useless product.
I’m not completely off of coffee, and I do still splurge and have a cup or two during the day, but I feel as though I’m not dependent on coffee to function or to make it through my day anymore. As silly as it may sound, I feel more free that I don’t need to come back to this beverage time and time again just to feel normal or alert. It wasn’t easy doing it, or much fun, but the end result was well worth the struggle. And I’m seeing more and more that the best choices in life are usually the most difficult.
Dan grew up in Owatonna, Minnesota. I, Eliza, came from Aiken, South Carolina. We became Mr. and Mrs. Daniel Johnson on June 4, 2011.
In January of 2009, Dan joined the Air Force. After basic training and tech school in Texas, he was sent to Shaw Air Force Base in South Carolina for his first assignment. Dan spent 6 months in Qatar for a deployment from Sept ’10-March ’11. Dan went to college at Bethel University, and earned his MS in Finance from Webster University. Some of his interests include running, playing cranium, wake-boarding, snowboarding, reading, and watching movies. Currently, he is employed by Ronald Blue & Company in Charlotte, NC.
I studied music at University of South Carolina and Arizona State University. After finishing school, I got a job playing the violin with the Augusta Symphony, and moved back to my hometown. I have loved being Dan’s wife, and living in both Sumter and Charlotte. My interests include cooking, baking, writing letters, walking, traveling, and watching movies.
That is us in a nutshell. God has blessed us more than we deserve. “In HIM we live, and move, and have our being.” -Acts 17:28
Recently, Eliza and I took two weeks and flew to (my home) MN. I got to see much of my family members and friends, and Eliza got to meet much of my family members and friends! But I was reminded yet again how incredibly blessed we are to have the amazing family and friends that we do. I am very aware that not everyone has the same love, encouragement, support, and fun with their own family. Especially after joining the military and meeting so many people from around the country, it almost seems that it is rare. I typically hear more negative, sad stories and comments about people’s own families than happy ones. And it’s typically out of their control. We don’t have any say over what family we’re born into or who our parents are.
Being reminded of this, and our trip back to MN, made me thankful for the family and friends that we have.